Remembering A Miscarriage

Dear MrsM-I had a miscarriage almost 5yrs ago. I wasn’t very far along, 8wks to
be exact, but we had bonded with this baby and even named her before we
lost her.

Recently, we’ve had others, people we know, be very rude and cruel
towards me about the miscarriage. I have been called weak, an attention
whore among other things. Apparently since I was only 8wks along, we
should just forget this baby because she was nothing more than a “yolk
sac.” Am I wrong for not forgetting? We have other children, but to us,
that doesn’t mean we didnt’ have this baby too. I even have her
“birth” stone and name engraved on my mothers ring along with my other
childrens names and birth stones.
Is it unhealthy for me to remember my daughter I lost?

I’m sorry for your loss.

It is absolutely appropriate for you to deal with the passing of your baby in whatever way you see fit, and other people are insensitive (at best) to suggest anything different. Even if you had 100 children, the loss of one child at any point would still be understandably devastating.

Miscarriage is a very emotional, very personal thing and everyone comes to peace in a different way. If remembering your lost child and honoring them on your mother’s ring is helpful to you then that’s what you should do; and if anyone has something negative to say about it I would tell them to mind their own business and find some friends and family members who are supportive to talk to instead.